One Thousand Gifts (Book Review)

One Thousand GiftsOne Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are.
by Ann Voskamp
224 pp  Zondervan

If you’re looking for a book that could change your life, be sure to read Ann Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are. I already followed and loved Ann Voskamp’s blog at A Holy Experience. I already belonged to and loved her Gratitude Community. But still, the book was even better than I expected.

Ann’s honesty in describing her woundedness in the first chapter gives power and depth to the entire book … try to imagine your first memory that of your younger sister being killed in a tragic accident.

Ann’s description of that event and her two infant nephews’ deaths and her wrestling with the emotions and questions those events raised give new meaning and depth to the practice of writing down one thousand gifts … the simple process of recording the many little things for which we’re grateful.

Telling of her years of woundedness, Ann articulates many of the doubts we all have about God’s ways at times: “If it were up to me … I’d write this story differently.”  And questions the simplicity of recording one thousand gifts: “Some days, ones with laundry and kids and dishes in sink, it is hard to think that the insulting ordinariness of this truly teaches the full mystery of the all most important, eucharisteo. It’s so frustratingly common – it’s offensive.”

But still, she works to “give up resentment for gratitude, gnawing anger for spilling joy…Self-focus for God-communion.” And she truly sees and experiences the life-changing power of gratitude, feels what it’s like to change her default from resentment to gratitude, learns to see God in the details of life.

"As long as thanks is possible, then joy is always possible." Ann Voskamp

And she discovers that “As long as thanks is possible, then joy is always possible.” Ann’s writing is poetic throughout the book, adding to her deeply religious message and to the love story it is … experiencing a real relationship with God and the joy that brings.

“As Long As Thanks Is Possible” Word-Art Freebie (without watermark)

You can join the Book Club at (in)courage with added videos and discussion of One Thousand Gifts.

Read the first chapter of One Thousand Gifts here.

Thought-Provoking Thursdays

Best Gratitude Quotes

thank you note for every language

I really believe in ThanksLiving. I love the Gratitude CommunityProject Smile, and ideas like the Blessing Bowl. I’ve written quite a bit about gratitude in the past.

November is a perfect time to focus on being grateful – although there’s no time that’s not perfect to focus on being grateful. If you have athletes in your family, I think the best thing you can do is to “Let Gratitude Carry You through the Competition Season.” And no matter what your life situation is, you can let gratitude carry you through life.

Here are my favorite gratitude quotes:

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” Cicero

“Gratitude is the memory of the heart.” Jean Baptiste Massieu

“Gratitude is riches. Complaint is poverty.” Doris Day

“To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.” Johannes A. Gaertner

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” Meister Eckhart

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” G.K. Chesterton

“Gratitude is the best attitude.” Author Unknown

“The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings.” Eric Hoffer

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” John Fitzgerald Kennedy

“In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy.” Albert Clarke

“For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food,
For love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Gratitude is when memory is stored in the heart and not in the mind.” Lionel Hampton

“The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you.” John E. Southard

“Forget injuries, never forget kindness.” Confucius

“Darkness deserves gratitude. It is the alleluia point at which we learn to understand that all growth does not take place in the sunlight.” Joan Chittister

“Showing gratitude is one of the simplest yet most powerful things humans can do for each other.” Randy Pausch

“Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.” Karl Barth

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is a spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.” Denis Watley

“Nothing is more honorable than a grateful heart.” Lucius Annaeus Seneca

“Who does not thank for little will not thank for much.” Estonian Proverb

“God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say “thank you?” William A. Ward

“A single grateful thought toward heaven is the most complete prayer.” Gotthold Ephraim Lessing

“The gratitude that we encounter helps us believe in the goodness of the world, and strengthens us thereby to do what’s good.” Dr. Albert Schweitzer

“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” Maya Angelou

“Gratitude is something of which none of us can give too much. For on the smiles, the thanks we give, our little gestures of appreciation, our neighbors build their philosophy of life.” A.J. Cronin

“Gratitude for the present moment and the fullness of life now is the true prosperity.” Eckhart Tolle

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” Marcel Prous

“The grateful person knows that God is good, not by hearsay but by experience. And that is what makes all the difference.” Thomas Merton

“Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.” Native American Prayer

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” William Arthur Ward

“Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy – because we will always want to have something else or something more.” David Steindl-Rast

“So much has been given to me; I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied.” Helen Keller

“The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.” H. U. Westermayer

“ThanksGiving is good but ThanksLiving is better.” Matthew Henry

What is your favorite gratitude quote?

Photo Credit: Photo by Woodley Wonderworks at Flickr Creative Commons.

Project Smile

Alicia at A Beautiful Mess launched Project Smile to brighten our days as we move into fall and winter. On the last day of the month, Alicia will share the little things that make her smile, and she’s encouraging us to focus on the little things that make us smile as well.

I love Project Smile. It reminds me of the Gratitude Community’s Thousand Gifts. It’s about noticing and being grateful for the small things in life.

For me, Project Smile means truly savoring things like time spent with family, Colorado’s 300 days of sunshine each year, Cheyenne Mountain in my neighborhood, the changing of the aspen leaves in the fall, hot tea and hot chocolate.

In Living Life as a Thank You: The Transformative Power of Daily Gratitude, a story from Renee Tilton tells of the lovely daily gratitude practice she learned from her father.

“I noticed that each morning after he went outside to get the newspaper, he stood for a few minutes quietly looking up at the sky and reflecting.” Renee says. “When I asked him what he was thinking, he said that he started his mornings by appreciating God’s beautiful creation and thinking, ‘This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.’”

Renee adds, “As I lock the front door as I’m leaving my house, I pause for a moment to thank God for my home and family, then I look up at the beautiful sky and thank Him for a wonderful day. It puts me in the right frame of mind to start each day.”

Project Smile goes along well with a study published in the British Medical Journal in September 2008.  Scientists from Harvard University and UC San Diego discovered a spread of happiness through social networks. In a study of almost 5,000 people over 20 years, they found:

Clusters of happy and unhappy people are visible in the network, and the relationship between people’s happiness extends up to three degrees of separation (for example, to the friends of one’s friends’ friends). People who are surrounded by many happy people and those who are central in the network are more likely to become happy in the future.

Their conclusion was:

People’s happiness depends on the happiness of others with whom they are connected. This provides further justification for seeing happiness, like health, as a collective phenomenon.

Mother Teresa would agree. Whether for inner peace or outer peace, Mother Teresa promoted the spread of happiness and smiles. She said:

Peace begins with a smile.

Please join me in celebrating and sharing Project Smile.

Let Gratitude Carry You through the Competition Season

Will and Christina in Montreal during a Family Trip after the 2003 Lake Placid Ice Dance Championships

Will (18) and Christina (13) in Montreal during a family trip after the 2003 Lake Placid Ice Dance Championships.

It’s often said that competitions are harder on parents than on the athletes competing. That’s true in too many ways. But competitions can be made easier for everyone, thanks to gratitude.

“Gratitude is the memory of the heart.”
-Jean Baptiste Massieu

I’ve talked about gratitude and the Gratitude Community before. I truly believe that gratitude is a key to happily surviving your child’s competitions, regardless of the outcomes.

Rather than worrying about the competition outcome, adding to my list of 1000 gifts throughout a skating competition is one of the best things I’ve done to enjoy the experience. It always helped to make an extra effort to find—and create—things to be grateful for. This works well both during and right after a competition.

Attaching a mini trip to the end of a competition especially added numerous “gifts” to my gratitude list. Some of our most disappointing competitions actually had some of our most memorable trips at the end. By focusing on gratitude, my family could thoroughly enjoy the trip and forget about the competition outcome.

Have you found ways to use gratitude to make competitions better for you and your family?