Success after Competitive Skating Isn’t Just Luck

Last week, I talked about how figure skating increased self-confidence for my daughter, Chrissy. It did the same thing for my son, Will. Both Chrissy and Will say that increased self-confidence was one of the the biggest benefits of figure skating.

I focused on Chrissy’s life after competitive skating last week, so I want to focus on Will’s this week. In addition to having increased self-confidence, Will says figure skating increased his ability to work hard and be self-motivated. Although Will was naturally a hard worker, figure skating played an important role in fully developing his ability to work hard, be self-motivated, and persevere through adversity.

I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.

-Thomas Jefferson

Successful athletes learn to work hard and develop self-discipline. I remember hearing that Ivy League schools often like figure skaters who have tested through senior because of their ability to work and persevere toward a goal. Out of necessity, student athletes also learn to manage busy schedules.

DJ Will. (Photo from 1clickphotography.com)

DJ Will. (Photo from 1clickphotography.com)

While training and competing internationally in pairs, Will used his developing time-management skills to simultaneously:

  • start and operate a DJ business
  • begin his coaching career through coaching Learn to Skate, apprenticing with high-level coaches, and teaching private lessons
  • take college courses part-time
  • participate actively in the Society of Success and Leadership in college

After retiring from competitive skating, Will attended college full-time while working as a coach and DJ. Now Will has his B.A. degree, but he still manages both his DJ business and a busy coaching schedule.

Will’s wife, Chea, is a former competitive skater as well. She uses her ability to be self-motivated to work as both a skating coach and a sports psychology consultant while completing her doctorate in sports psychology.

It isn’t unusual to hear of former competitive skaters who are successful in life. And that isn’t just luck—unless it’s the kind of luck Thomas Jefferson talks about.

Don’t Forget the Three Most Important Words before a Competition Performance

Will (15) and Chrissy (10) in 2000. Will and Chrissy heard "I love you" a lot throughout their competitive skating careers.

Will (15) and Chrissy (10) in 2000. Will and Chrissy heard “I love you” a lot throughout their competitive skating careers.

Last week, I talked about two words, “have fun,” that can help your skater (or any athlete) before a competition performance. I also like to use the words “have fun” before other skaters go onto the ice for their competition performances.

There are three words, though, that are even more important for your own skater. Those three words are “I love you.” I can’t think of anything more important before a competition than for your skater to know he or she is loved unconditionally, regardless of what happens in the performance or judging.

It would seem that our skaters should automatically know they’re loved. Still, competitions can create intense emotions. Why not be sure? It’s always good if the last thing your skater hears from you before going onto the ice is, “I love you.”

When Chrissy and Will were competing internationally, my husband and I often had to say those words over the phone. But over the phone or in person, “I love you” were still the last words Chrissy and Will heard from us before going onto the ice.

So, those were my words: “Have fun. I love you.” Or sometimes, “Have fun and enjoy performing. I love you.” Some athletes might respond best to just the three words “I love you.” What works best for you and your athlete?

Don’t Forget These Two Words before a Competition Performance

Over the years, my husband and I came to realize the importance of two words before any competition performance (or any performance, for that matter). The words work for your own athletes and are a good thing to say to anyone right before their performance.

 Those two words are

Have fun!

Chrissy and Mark having fun performing at the 2009 European Championships. (Photo by Liz Chastney)

Chrissy and Mark having fun performing at the 2009 European Championships. (Photo by Liz Chastney)

I remember reading in a book a number of years ago that athletes perform best if they don’t think too much and just stay out of their heads. After all their training, muscular memory will take over anyway. 

Skaters already know the importance of doing well if it’s a high-stakes competition. They don’t need to be reminded.

Focusing on having fun is a great way for skaters to stay out of their heads. And it keeps things in perspective. The hard work is done, and it’s time to enjoy performing. Sometimes, after I say, “Have fun!” I might add, “Enjoy performing!” or, “Enjoy performing for the audience!”

Before your athlete competes, do you say, “Have fun,” or something similar?