“Let Brett Bowden Play” Shows What’s Important

The campaign to “let Brett Bowden play” isn’t just about a sports rule. It’s about what’s important in sports.

The Brett Bowden Story

If you haven’t heard, Brett Bowden is a 19-year-old high school football player with Down syndrome who loves football, is an inspiration to his team at Hobbton High School in Newton Grove, N.C., and is also the victim of a North Carolina High School Athletic Association age regulation.

Here’s what’s been happening (video from 8/11/11):

I’m happy to say that the Facebook page Let Brett Bowden Play already has 60,493 fans. I’m hoping the “let Brett Bowden Play” campaign will help get what Brett’s mother wishes for – a “‘Brett Bowden’ rule for special needs students who want to play high school sports.”

Inspiration from Brett Bowden

I love the attitude of Brett’s teammates, like Charles Chestnutt, who said:

Brett means the world to me. I promise you. He’s my inspiration. When I come on Friday nights and he leads us out the tunnel, that tells me that it’s time for me to play and do what I got to do for him.

It’s heartwarming to see how many people care about doing the right thing, to see Brett’s love for the game, and to see the tremendous support for what’s really important in sports – character building and qualities like self-confidence that come from striving to do your best.

Of course, I also love seeing support for people with special needs. I’m a fan of Special Olympics, too. Please add your support to “Let Brett Bowden Play” – and be a fan of what’s really important in sports.

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Best Competition Quotes

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I love sport as a metaphor for life. So many life skills are learned in sports, and most competition tips can be applied to any part of life.

Here are my favorite competition quotes. Most are from athletes, but all can be applied to life in general.

“When the game is over I just want to look at myself in the mirror, win or lose, and know I gave it everything I had.” Joe Montana

“You find that you have peace of mind and can enjoy yourself, get more sleep, and rest when you know that it was a one hundred percent effort that you gave — win or lose.” Gordie Howe

“Champions do not become champions when they win the event, but in the hours, weeks, months and years they spend preparing for it. The victorious performance itself is merely the demonstration of their championship character.” T. Alan Armstrong

“Show class, have pride, and display character. If you do, winning takes care of itself.” Coach Paul “Bear” Bryant

“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to become the best that you are capable of becoming.” John Wooden

“When I go out on the ice, I just think about my skating. I forget it is a competition.” Katarina Witt

“Winning is important to me, but what brings me real joy is the experience of being fully engaged in whatever I’m doing.” Phil Jackson

“When I’m in my groove there is no thinking. Everything just happens.” Ozzie Smith, baseball

“You must do everything possible to put yourself in a position to win. But if you consider second or third a failure, I feel sorry for you.” Joe Falcon, distance runner

“I may win and I may lose, but I will never be defeated.” Emmitt Smith

“There are victories of the soul and spirit. Sometimes, even if you lose, you win.” Elie Wiesel

“You are never a loser until you quit trying.” Mike Ditka

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Wayne Gretzky

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill

“Winners compare their achievements with their goals, while losers compare their achievements with those of other people.” Nido Qubein

“The strongest people aren’t always the people who win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.” Ashley Hodgeson

“Winning and losing are both very temporary things. Having done one or the other, you move ahead. Gloating over a victory or sulking over a loss is a good way to stand still.” Chuck Knox

“For me, losing a tennis match isn’t failure, it’s research.” Billie Jean King

“If you win through bad sportsmanship, that’s no real victory.” Babe Zaharias

“For when the One Great Scorer comes
To mark against your name,
He writes – not that you won or lost -
But how you played the Game.”
Grantland Rice

“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them.” Rabindranath Tagore

“Be thankful for quality competitors who push you to your limit.” Michael Josephson

“When you compete with someone as good or better than you, you may not always win, but you never lose.” Michael Josephson

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” Confucius

“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” Oprah Winfrey

“Winning isn’t always finishing first. Sometimes winning is just finishing.” Manuel Diotte

“Doing what is right, fair and honorable is more important than winning or losing.” Chick Moorman

“Life’s up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals.” Marsha Sinetar

“In life, we choose whether or not we want to be a winner or a loser.” Patrick Boles

“Competitive toughness is an acquired skill and not an inherited gift.” Chris Evert

“You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right there.” Venus Williams

“You’ve got to win in your mind before you win in your life.” John Addison

“Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.” Richard Bach

“The most important attribute a player must have is mental toughness.” Mia Hamm

“With confidence, you have won even before you have started.” Marcus Garvey

“I think it’s the mark of a great player to be confident in tough situations.” John McEnroe

“Sometimes the biggest problem is in your head. You’ve got to believe.” Jack Nicklaus

“Concentration is the ability to think about absolutely nothing when it is absolutely necessary.” Ray Knight

“Mastery of thought and emotion is the key to all winning!” George Zalucki

“I look at sport and competition as something that has been personally enormously beneficial to me. It’s helped me create life skills. And if we carry ourselves with grace and dignity and try our best — even when we fall on our faces, as will happen sometimes — then I think people will see that. And that will be the message of sport and the Olympics.” Joey Cheek

“The most important thing in the Olympic Games is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph, but the struggle. The essential thing is not to have conquered, but to have fought well.” The Olympic Creed

“Let me win. But if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt. ” Special Olympics athlete oath

“Don’t ever forget that you play with your soul as well as your body.” Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

“When you have fun, it changes all the pressure into pleasure.” Ken Griffey Sr. and Ken Griffey Jr.

“The moment of victory is much too short to live for that and nothing else.” Martina Navratilova

“Winning isn’t getting ahead of others, it is getting ahead of yourself.” – Roger Staubach

“I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.” Mikhail Baryshnikov

“You, and you alone, are the person who should take the measure of your own success. . . . I do not try to be better than anyone else. I only try to be better than myself.” Dan Jansen

“It’s all about the journey, not the outcome.” Carl Lewis

“Just play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.” Michael Jordan

What is your favorite competition quote?

[By the way, if you would like skating competition tips, check out the articles in Top Tips for Skating Competitions at Christina Chitwood Performance.]

Photo Credit: Photo by Lina Hayes at Flickr Creative Commons.

Even Now, Sports Are Important

Dreaming - one day the future will be yoursThe devastation in Japan brings a lot of things into perspective. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Japanese people. Those of us who are lucky to have our families alive and well feel grateful that we still have one of the most important parts of life.

But what about other parts of our lives? Are they still important as well? The figure-skating community has been affected by the situation in Japan like the rest of the world – and by the fact that the 2011 World Figure Skating Championships originally scheduled to begin on March 21 were scheduled for Tokyo, Japan.

It’s obviously not appropriate to have the World Championships as originally scheduled. I don’t know what can or should happen with this year’s Worlds. But I do know that, despite everything that’s happened, sports are still important.

ESPN Commentary published an excellent article about this exact topic. The article is called “Japan and the Vanishing Point.” In the article, Jeff MacGregor says that the superficial and commercial parts of sports are unimportant. But he also says that the “object lessons in near-limitless human potential” are important:

I’m not talking about sports stardom or sports celebrity or sports money. Those things are unimportant. . . . But a kid driving the lane midair all grace and fire and defiance of gravity is not. The NFL draft or the NFL lockout or the NFL logo on your comforter and sheet set is nonsense. The courage to get back up having been knocked down is not. Opening ceremonies are majestic, profitable nonsense. Usain Bolt, 9.58, is not.

I think of all the positive character traits our children can learn through sports. I know my children have developed skills and traits that will serve them well throughout their lives . . . traits like self-confidence and the ability to work hard, develop self-discipline, and persevere through adversity.

I think of inspiring examples of strength and courage through adversity that encourage us all to dig deeper and persevere through hardship . . . examples like the Paralympians and the Special Olympians. . . . examples like Joannie Rochette at the 2010 Olympics and John Coughlin at the 2011 U.S. Figure Skating Championships.

Jeff MacGregor talks about “our idea of ourselves” . . . “the irreducible human gesture at the center of modern sports.” He says:

This we call hope. This is what keeps us alive. This is how we persist. This is why sports are important.

Even now.

Note: Here’s an article from Time on “How You Can Help the Earthquake and Tsunami Victims in Japan.”

Photo Credit: Image by mxi/Dane at Flickr Creative Commons.

Kirsty Girl

In Student Athlete, Student Comes First

For families with athletes, it’s easy for sports to become a primary focus. I think involvement in sports is wonderful. Figure skating was obviously a huge part of my family’s life. Yet, it’s important to remember the words from the movie Coach Carter:

These…are student athletes. “Student” comes first.

As much as athletes would like to compete in the Olympics and be at the top of their sport, that may or may not happen. Injuries could stop or hinder an athletic career – or the highest level of success just may not be in the cards. And no matter what happens, there is life at the end of a competitive sports career. 

My Family of Student Athletes 

I was happy that my children, Will and Chrissy, kept up their studies throughout their competitive careers. They have never regretted it either. Even though Will only attended college part-time while he was competing in pairs, he still completed his BA with a 4.0 grade point average at age 24. 

Chrissy had to go to school full-time to get a student visa to live in England. Attending university full-time while training and competing in senior ice-dance was a bit much. But it definitely paid off when Chrissy got her BA with First Class Honours at age 19. And the character traits Will and Chrissy developed by being successful student athletes were priceless. 

Rachael Flatt 

One of the best examples of a student athlete is the 2010 U.S. National Ladies Figure Skating Champion, Rachael Flatt. Rachael has been an inspiration for student athletes everywhere by training and competing at such a high level while maintaining straight As and taking a heavy course load of AP classes at Cheyenne Mountain High School in Colorado Springs. 

Rachael graduated from high school in May and was accepted into a number of top-level universities. She is deferring college this year but plans to attend Stanford University in the fall of 2011. 

As the school year starts, help your athlete be a true student athlete. 

Here’s a lovely and appropriate video by Rachael and RIF: 

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What has worked for your family in keeping the proper balance between student and athlete?